Narcissism is not just a personality trait, but a serious psychological condition that can significantly affect relationships with others.
It is important to be able to recognize the signs of narcissism in order to understand in time who you are dealing with and to build communication correctly.
In this article, together with psychologist Ksenia Matur, we will look at five clear signs that will help you determine that you are dealing with a narcissist and avoid unpleasant situations in the future.
Self-obsession
Any conversations are transferred to their personality and interests. Almost every phrase begins with "I...", "And I have..." and if the conversation is about something else, then they very quickly switch it to their person.
He is not interested in other people, their interests, desires.
Narcissists want only their needs to be met, in a relationship with them the partner will have to play a secondary role, play along and extol the personality of the narcissist, praise and admire, forgetting about themselves and their interests. Otherwise, it is impossible to be in a relationship with them.
Lack of empathy and understanding
Narcissists are indifferent to the feelings of other people, do not understand or feel their experiences and emotions.
They cannot put themselves in the place of another and understand his feelings and experiences. Here they have complete indifference and insensitivity. In the same way, they are not sensitive to themselves, and do not understand their feelings.
Inability to form close and trusting relationships
They do not know how to get close, trust, be in contact, they constantly keep their distance. At the same time, they demand a lot of attention, care, admiration, etc.
In a relationship with a narcissist it will always be cold and lonely, it is impossible to meet with him soulfully and with feelings, you can only satisfy their needs and have only functional relationships.
Blaming, judging and devaluing others
They criticize and condemn everyone very easily. They also often and easily devalue people, their achievements and results.
Someone is always to blame for their problems and troubles, but not themselves, because of others in the life of a narcissist something goes wrong and something is missing. It is easiest for narcissists to devalue someone in order to present themselves as cooler, smarter, stronger, more significant, to compensate for their insecurity and assert themselves.
Low self-esteem
Although at first glance it may seem that the narcissist is very self-confident. In reality, this is an appearance and a show, they throw dust in the eyes, creating a grandiose image that protects their unstable psyche.
Narcissists seek approval and love from others in order to gain their own respect and self-love.
But, unfortunately, they will never achieve this, because inside them there is an emptiness that cannot be filled with anything, no matter how much attention, love and care you pour into them - it is like a bottomless barrel.
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
