"It's nice to hear that you treat the cat so politely. For some reason, cats are usually addressed as "you", although no cat has ever drunk brotherhood with anyone." © Behemoth the Cat
Psychologist Evgeniya Zarubina explained whether it is necessary to teach a child politeness.
Politeness is one of the main qualities of a civilized society. Many parents instill rules of politeness in their children from the cradle, and I fully support them.
Politeness is not only "excuse me", "hello", "please". Of course, these words are important. But politeness means much more.
This is the sum of actions that determine a person's internal culture. Having the skills of polite communication, it is much easier to resolve a difficult situation, come to an agreement, build relationships.
A polite, well-mannered child is an honor for parents. Where to start? With YOURSELF!, my dear parents. Yes, yes. Children are our reflection. It is you who should be an example for the child.
Next, form basic rules of behavior in society.
A child should know, for example, that he must not kick the back of the seat in front of him on the bus, talk during a performance at the theater, take a shovel from a playmate in the sandbox, and say “thank you” after eating.
If you don't teach your child basic things in childhood, it will be very difficult to catch up later. Very important point! Explain to your child that all people are different.
There are people with disabilities. And physical disabilities are not a reason for ridicule and heated discussion. Teach children to be tolerant and empathetic.
Play is the leading activity for children. And one of the ways of learning. Play "politeness" with your child. Take toys and model different situations.
There can be hundreds of plots. Explain to the child how to react in a given situation, what words can be used, etc. Fairy tales will also serve as a good educational aid.
V. Oseeva "The Magic Word"; Vasilyeva-Gangnus L. "The ABCs of Politeness"; T. Shorygina "Polite Tales: Etiquette for Kids"; S. Mikhalkov, S. Marshak, S. Kozlov "Tales of Politeness", Russian folk tale "Morozko" and others. Just be sure to discuss the book with your child after reading, draw conclusions.
Teaching your children to be polite is the job of parents. And it is not an easy task. Even if it seems to you that everything is in vain and there are no positive fruits of your work, it is not so.
The time will come and you will see how your baby has changed for the better.
