When we like someone and we are about to meet them for the first time, we are terribly worried - what if they don't like me?
Or will I do something ridiculous or funny, putting myself in a bad light?
In fact, it is normal to be nervous before a meeting, but it is also important to pay attention to the gentleman - how he behaves and what he says.
Psychologist Ksenia Matur listed seven signs that it’s time to immediately run away from your boyfriend.
If his plans keep changing
A man cancels meetings, reschedules them, or says he only has an hour. Instability and unreliability of a partner in a relationship negatively affects the quality of the relationship and your psychological and emotional state. It is very important for a woman to have a reliable partner on whom she can "rely", this creates a sense of security in the relationship.
The suitor periodically disappears and then appears
In this case, we can say that you have emotional swings in your relationship. And they always have a negative impact on your psychological state - constant tension and instability undermine your nervous system and make you vulnerable to stress and even illness.
Your boyfriend talks a lot about his ex or exes
It doesn't matter if it's in a negative or positive context. It means that the relationship is not finished yet (even on an emotional level), and it will interfere with building new relationships.
The suitor does not pay alimony to his ex-wife and speaks negatively about her
You can see how he can treat you and your children, if you break up, most likely the situation will be mirrored. An alarm bell says that the man does not value either children or the woman who gave birth to them. To think that it will be different with you is utopia, because the attitude of a man to a woman does not change.
If a man invites you to go for a walk or meet in a seedy cafe
Or he looks at you reproachfully when you place an order. Or he may immediately limit your choice. This means that he is greedy and will save not only his money on you, but also yours! You will constantly hear reproaches and complaints from him, as well as demands to reduce expenses and give up many things.
Your boyfriend talks a lot about your mother
Or during a meeting with you, she constantly writes and calls her, or she writes and calls him. This indicates that the man has a strong connection with his mother, most likely, he depends on her opinion, and it will be difficult for you to build a relationship with him, since his mother will play a leading role in your life.
The situation is aggravated when a man also lives with his mother. Unfortunately, it is very difficult, almost impossible, to compete with a mother. If a man is dependent on his mother, he will listen to her first.
Your boyfriend only talks about himself and isn't interested in you.
And if you talk about yourself, he quickly turns the conversation back to himself. This also includes indifference to your feelings, experiences - if your desires and feelings are devalued, this is a very bad sign.
You are likely to be ignored in a relationship. Relationships with a selfish and unfeeling person are very difficult, you will feel cold and lonely in the relationship.
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
