The dating service "Mamba" conducted a survey and found out that modern people do not care about their parents' opinion when choosing a partner, 50 percent of men and 36 percent of women reported.
The majority (55%) of men will not be influenced by the fact that their friends do not approve of their beloved, while almost 60% of women, on the contrary, will listen to their friends' opinions about their partner.
At the same time, men are more likely to meet and enter into a relationship with someone their parents recommend - almost every tenth respondent agrees to this outcome, while only 1% of women would agree to this.
Why does it happen that people are dependent on their parents' opinion when choosing a partner? Clinical psychologist of the "Clinic of Dr. Anikina", author of the channel "Ecological Psychologist" Stanislav Sambursky tells and explains.
In Slavic culture, family plays an important role in a person's life, and parents have a strong influence on the upbringing, values, and attitudes of their children. Parents do not say it out loud, but they broadcast it through their behavior that they expect their children to follow the traditions accepted in the family. Accordingly, it is so important to take into account the opinion of elders on important decisions, including the choice of a partner.
Children, in turn, strive to meet their parents' expectations, avoid protracted conflicts, or gain approval. Such dependence on their parents' opinions is often unconscious, but can limit freedom of choice and lead to problems in relationships with a partner if the parents do not approve of him.
This phenomenon reflects a certain socio-cultural situation, which can change over time and under the influence of economic, educational and other factors. In different countries and cultures, the degree of dependence on the opinion of parents also differs, and the ways of expressing dissatisfaction and overcoming this dependence can be different. In Slavic countries, people are quite conservative, so the opinion of elders on building a family and blessing for marriage are important even now.
Why are women so dependent on their friends' opinions when choosing a partner?
Women, unlike men, are more focused on communication, emotional support and approval from their friends and family. The environment is an important source of self-confidence for a woman. Women often trust the opinion of their friends more than their own opinion, because from the outside it is clearer. For girls, the environment and friends are often more important than nascent feelings, and she will prefer to refuse to continue a relationship with someone who does not fit into the idea of her loved ones about her partner.
This does not mean that there is anything wrong with them or that they are worse than men. It reflects differences in the psychology, upbringing and socialization of men and women, which shape their ways of thinking, feeling and behaving.
Why are men willing to meet and enter into a relationship with someone their parents recommend, but women are not
Men, unlike women, are less focused on emotional closeness, love and romance when choosing a partner for a long-term relationship. They focus much more on rationality, practicality and social status.
Men know the sin of "thinking with their dick" and understand that long-term relationships require more than passion. Passion goes away, but mutual respect, comfort, and affection remain.
It is the parents who can choose the right woman for marriage, thinking with their heads. They know better what kind of woman is suitable for their son according to material, cultural and other criteria, so it is the parents who can offer a union that will be strong for many years.
Women, unlike men, are more focused on emotional closeness, love and romance when choosing a partner. If your girlfriend says, "Oh, how cute," there's nothing to think about, you have to take him.
Despite the endless number of predators around successful men, most women choose with their hearts and pay less attention to rationality and practicality.
Earlier we wrote about whether it is possible to love two people .
Expert: Stanislav Sambursky
