Parental divorce is a serious psychological blow for a child.
A child who loves both mom and dad cannot calmly accept the fact that the two people closest to him were unable to overcome their differences and make peace.
It is also difficult for the child because he begins to see one of his parents less often.
Let's imagine a standard situation: after the spouses separate, the child remains to live with the mother.
What should a mother tell her son or daughter to help him/her cope with their parents' divorce?
"I understand you"
Never scold your child for tears or other emotions due to the current situation!
You can’t ignore your baby’s feelings either.
Be sure to tell your child that you understand him. Provide moral support: he is going through a difficult period and needs consolation.
"You haven't lost your dad."
Explain to your child right away that his father did not “abandon” him.
The baby must understand that dad continues to love him and intends to continue communicating with him.
Tell your child that he will be able to see his loved one every weekend.
Of course, all of the above explanations are relevant if the father really intends to continue to take part in the upbringing and life of the baby.
"You are not to blame for what happened. It was my and dad's decision."
Some children whose parents are divorced reason like this: “If I had behaved well, my parents would have stayed together.”
Does your child feel guilty about your divorce? Explain to your child right away that he came to the wrong conclusion.
