A child can become a loner for three reasons.
The first is over-inflated self-esteem. If a child considers himself better than all his peers, then hardly anyone will want to be friends with him.
The second reason is overprotection. If parents go overboard, “protecting” the baby from everything, then the child will hardly be able to develop social skills.
The third reason is the child's mistrust of others. A child who is afraid of other people is unlikely to have friends.
Any of the three problems listed above can make themselves known through the fault of mom and dad. The following parental phrases are especially dangerous.
"You are the best for me"
Sometimes this phrase can be said. But if you do it too often and at the wrong moments, the child will clearly develop an inflated self-esteem.
It is difficult for a narcissistic child to find friends.
"You can't do it, let me do it"
Give your child the opportunity to act independently. Yes, the child will certainly make mistakes. But without them, acquiring knowledge and skills is impossible.
It is difficult for a dependent child, for whom mom and dad do everything, to earn the respect of his peers.
"Trust no one"
Of course, being overly trusting is not the best character trait.
But there is nothing good in complete distrust of others either.
A child whose parents set him against his peers becomes withdrawn.
