Many parents have a dangerous habit of comparing their baby with their other child.
Some mothers and fathers believe that if they set their son or daughter as an example of their brother or sister, it will help.
In fact, such comparisons have a negative impact on the child.
The consequences can be tragic. First of all, we are talking about problems in relationships between brothers/sisters.
Why You Shouldn't Compare Your Children
“You haven’t done your homework yet, but your brother has long since learned everything” or “You didn’t wash the dishes well, but your sister did a much better job”…
It is better not to say such phrases. Do not forget that your children are different. They differ in age and character. They have different interests and different approaches to learning.
Of course, sometimes a child should be scolded for bad grades or for not doing homework. But the complaint should be based on this problem. It is not worth citing a brother, sister or any other child as an example.
The thing is that the baby is unlikely to pay attention to the "standard". The result will be different: the comparison will have a negative effect on the child's self-esteem. The boy or girl may come to the conclusion that he or she is worse than his or her brother or sister in everything.
It is also possible that the child will decide that the parents love his brother/sister more.
Therefore, do not compare your children: this will have a negative effect on their relationships. As they grow up, the "rivals" are unlikely to support each other.
