Some parental phrases can be safely called universal, because they are repeated by all generations.
But if there are normal, simply cliched words like "why is the sweater lying around?" or "don't be a mommy!", then there are also frankly negative ones.
Loving parents will definitely not say such things to their child, so that he does not get psychological trauma. What are these phrases?
1. "If you misbehave, I'll give you to your aunt!"
Threatening a stranger is, in principle, dangerous.
Firstly, the child may grow up withdrawn and unsociable, having learned from birth that all people are evil and bad. How else, after all, his mother threatens to give him to them?
Secondly, trust in the mother is lost, who, it turns out, can easily abandon her child.
One day this method will not work: the baby, tired of his mother’s threats, will personally ask to go to the notorious “auntie”, who no longer seems so scary.
Much worse is a chronically dissatisfied parent who scares you with aunts, uncles, policemen and others.
2. "And here is Vasya... (Petya, Tanya, Masha)"
Any comparison always shows parental dislike and bias. Children hear it differently: others are good, and they are bad. The consequences are also quite dire: first the child begins to hate this Vasya, and then his mom and dad, who like him so much. Especially emotional ones can say something like "Well, then raise Petya, and send me to an orphanage!"
3. "I didn't expect anything else from you!"
This is a typical devaluation of children's merits. It turns out that the mother is disappointed in any action of her child in advance. If it's a three or a two, then this is a common thing, whereas parents simply won't believe in an A. In such families, children grow up insecure, unwilling to try: the relatives will be disappointed anyway.
4. "There is nothing of yours here!"
Surprisingly, some parents start to calculate their expenses on their child. What and when they bought, where this thing is now, etc. Children are already dependent on adults, but if they are constantly reminded of "dependency", it will end badly.
No one will love such bad teachers for sure.
5. "You're just like your father!"
A toxic phrase with a double meaning. Not only the child is devalued, but also his father. The mother essentially teaches the child not to respect and despise his father. Needless to say, how will he treat her in the future?
Thus, toxic phrases do not indicate that the child is particularly bad or terrible. First of all, they characterize the parents: complexed, embittered, unloving, envious, narcissistic, impudent.
It is easiest to assert oneself at the expense of children: they are small, dependent, and cannot defend their rights until a certain point.
Therefore, we must ensure that such a desire does not even arise.
Unfortunately, sometimes the above phrases do their dirty work: the minor becomes constrained, withdrawn, intimidated and hounded. And will definitely not be able to resist tyrant parents.
