Today, in social networks, the term “under-loved” is gaining popularity.
Some people think that unloved children grow up only in dysfunctional families or are abandoned by their parents. In fact, the situation here is a little different.
From the outside it may seem that such children are also cared for and given enough attention.
The kids have nice clothes, food on the table, fancy gadgets and everything they need for a “happy life.” But the truth is that these kids are emotionally distanced from their parents and do not receive the support and love they need from adults.
What are the signs that a child is not loved enough?
He tries to excel in something.
Sometimes parents raise their child as if they had a dog instead of a baby. For any, even the most insignificant, mistake the baby gets punished, and for achievements - praise.
If adults go to extremes and raise their child without a sense of proportion, then the baby will not have it either. He will try to do everything to make his merits noted and is terribly afraid of making a mistake, because he knows that nothing good will follow it.
Doesn't trust others
Already in kindergarten, the child is afraid to make new acquaintances, becomes quiet and withdrawn at school, and cannot find a partner in adulthood. And the problem here is the lack of emotional closeness with relatives who should, no matter what, love their child. Of course, an underloved child builds similar relationships with others, devoid of sincerity and deep trust.
Cannot cope with difficulties on his own
If a person was not loved enough in childhood, in adulthood he will not be able to control his own emotions and restrain them in any way.
If an individual was not emotionally protected in childhood, then when he grows up, he faces ridicule from others. Sometimes a person himself does everything to make other people insult and humiliate him, because he does not understand that this is wrong.
Cannot adequately assess the situations that happen to him
His reaction is mostly inadequate even to events that are usual for other people. It does not matter what response these situations cause in a person: positive or negative. The individual understands perfectly well that he cannot get along with people, therefore he remains unapproachable and indifferent in society, pushing away potential friends even more.
Tendency to depressive mood
An underloved child does not know how to pay attention to small things and find something beautiful in them, he simply does not enjoy the life that he has. Every day such a person worries about something and eventually distances himself from society, withdraws into himself.
Lack of love in childhood affects the fact that in adulthood a person cannot find himself and the business he wants to do, and becomes immersed in illusions and dreams.
