Psychologist Yulia Bidzha explained why scolding a child is pointless
When we communicate with a child, he does not hear or do what we tell him.
Psychologist Yulia Bidzha explained why scolding a child is pointless.
He does what we do. Accordingly, when we scold a child - we teach the child to swear, when we reproach him for something, when we impute a feeling of guilt for something - we teach the child to experience the state of a victim, and in addition, we set an example of how to be an aggressor and a rapist.
Scolding a child is not only pointless, but even very harmful, because we set an example of how to live in constant conflict, how to judge and discuss other people, how to rate other people.
If you scold your child, be sure that the child will mentally scold you in response, and then not only mentally, but also in life.
Before you scold your child, think about what you are actually doing with this scolding and what consequences will there be after you have scolded him?
Think about the fact that as a result of arguing you will ruin your relationship with him, after each fight your relationship will be less harmonious and more fragile.
How prepared are you for the fact that after each scandal your child will close himself off from you more and more and stop telling you about his life altogether?
How ready are you to one day lose a warm relationship with your child and sooner or later become strangers to each other, or even worse - become enemies who hide something from each other and try to manipulate each other.
