Psychologist Tatyana Vinogradova told how to help a teenager learn to set goals and achieve them
The psyche of teenagers is actively working in the process of forming and finding oneself in this world.
Tatyana Vinogradova, a psychologist at the St. Petersburg Center for Psychological Support and Psychocorrection, told how to help a teenager learn to set goals and achieve them.
If any adult does not get what he wants, or something does not work out for him, then he perceives it as a coincidence.
A teenager, if something doesn't work out, blames himself, and this is a natural stage of growing up. By the way, this is why acne, rashes on the face, and pimples begin in most cases during this transitional age.
This is psychosomatics. Let's say a girl or a guy doesn't pay attention to a teenager. He perceives this personally, that he is not good enough, not beautiful, ugly.
This “ugliness” as if in confirmation appears in the form of pimples.
To help a teenager learn to set goals and stop the formation of complexes, he needs, first of all, to trust.
For example, some household work. If there are brothers or sisters, trust him to take them to kindergarten and pick them up from kindergarten, even to attend parent-teacher meetings, even if they are not very important. But at the same time, he is fully responsible for whether he came or not.
Thus, the value increases that the teenager is needed in this house. He can already lose faith in himself, it seems to him that he has grown up, he feels freedom, but as if he begins to be torn away from the family, as if he is not needed, cannot find his place here.
And it is very important when a teenager has responsibilities that he fulfills, when he has money with which he goes to the store and buys food or household goods for the family.
These are small goals that parents set for a teenager, and he achieves them.
To form motivation to achieve these goals, it is important to make some important decisions together with the teenager.
For example, buying a new wardrobe or a family vacation, or some decisions about younger sisters and brothers (which kindergarten to go to, which clubs to take them to and why). It's great when they start taking into account a teenager's schedule.
Yes, a teenager should have responsibilities and tasks scheduled according to a certain schedule. After all, he is already big and independent.
Realizing this will give him self-confidence. In addition, when a teenager develops a sense of responsibility for himself and his responsibilities, when he clearly understands what he likes, what fills his day, what lights him up, he will gradually begin to strive for what he likes.
Over time, this will acquire meaning and purpose. From small and quick achievements of goals, it will grow to large and significant ones.
