There are two different words - loneliness and solitude.
The first is often associated with melancholy and despondency, and the second with the opportunity to rest.
If you are not in a relationship now, you can consider that you have been given a valuable gift - a break for solitude. It is worth taking advantage of it and learning things that will make life brighter, says Ksenia Matura .
1. The most important thing that loneliness and the monad period (when we live alone) give us is the ability to hear ourselves, our feelings, and learn to understand ourselves. Unfortunately, we are constantly dependent on someone's opinion. First, on the opinion of our parents due to our age and the structure of this world, then also on society, friends, colleagues, teachers, etc.
The ideal option is when a child after 18 years begins to live alone, independently, learns to build his life, relying only on himself, his desires and interests.
2. The ability to make decisions independently and be responsible for your life. A bit similar to the previous point, but there is an important difference: when we understand that parents/a wizard will not come and solve all the problems for us. Alone, we have to learn to make decisions independently, weigh all the consequences and be responsible for them.
3. The ability to manage your feelings, cope with experiences, learn to psychologically withstand some experiences and stress. Thanks to this, awareness increases.
4. Reveal your talents and creative side. When you are not in a relationship, alone, you have more free time. And you can use it to explore your talents and abilities. Go to various courses and trainings, meet people, try yourself in various hobbies.
Someone may even discover new facets of themselves and want to change their field of activity. But it is difficult to think about self-expression if you experience negative emotions, so it is better to first deal with the discomfort that the state of loneliness itself causes.
This can also be done in a creative way, such as writing in a journal about what loneliness is for you, writing a story about it, or painting a picture of it. Such practices often help to heal and learn to share your feelings with others.
5. Loneliness is a great opportunity to see the value of relationships and discover a desire to build partnerships, friendships, and love relationships. A good period to learn to ask for help from others, to learn to ask for and accept help, and sometimes to learn to accept and live through refusals.
It is no coincidence that all these points are arranged in this order. By observing and realizing this sequence, a person will reach the need for a relationship.
When he learns to feel himself, understand, know himself better, finds something to do while alone, he will enter into relationships as an independent and stable person. Having lived through the period of monad (solitude), people can build relationships on a more conscious level and not depend on each other too much!
Earlier we talked about how to protect your personal boundaries if you yourself are still weak in feeling them.
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
