In today's world, many of us focus on things that only drain our energy and often ruin our mood.
And then we wonder why we don’t have the strength and desire to move forward and reach new heights.
Together with psychologist Ksenia Matur , we figure out which habits prevent us from living peacefully.
Inability to say "no"
Most often, we do not refuse others because we want to please, to be good, to be needed. It seems to us that if we refuse, we will be "egoists", and since childhood we were instilled with the idea that thinking about ourselves is bad, we should think about others.
In fact, it is normal to think about yourself first, to look after your interests, to take care of yourself. It is very important to learn to defend your personal boundaries, but at the same time to respect the boundaries of others.
Bad thoughts
We live in troubled times, which is why panic attacks have become our daily routine. We sleep poorly, we are in constant anxiety. The more we fear, the sooner our fear will come true.
Learn to cast aside negative fantasies, think about something pleasant - remember your summer vacation or your last trip to the theater. Find ways to calm yourself down, walk in nature, spend less time on gadgets, don't watch or listen to the news.
Shifting responsibility
Quite often we do not notice our responsibility for what is happening, we just want to shift it onto others. You may know people who always blame anyone and anything for everything, but not them.
In their speech, you can often find formulations such as "it broke itself", "it just happened". As if they had no involvement in various events. And this greatly complicates communication, because it is difficult to rely on those who like this approach. And you can also end up being guilty.
Consumer attitude
Treat others as objects, wanting only to benefit yourself. Not taking into account that there is also a person in front of you with their own desires and opinions. Not respecting the interests of others, manipulating to get what you want.
Not being interested in the opinion of another person, but only sticking to your own line. This also includes unsolicited advice that we give. It seems to us that we know better what the other person needs and how we should act in his place. This approach prevents us from building relationships with a partner, parents, children, friends, colleagues, clients.
Putting life off until later
One of the strong habits that prevent us from living. Often we want something, but we think that now is not the time, a little later. "When I earn more money, then I will rest", "when I take another course, then I will start accepting clients", "when I work for hire, and then I will open my own business".
We wait for life and circumstances to change themselves, and we will get what we want.
It seems that we still have a lot of time and we will have time for everything, but life passes and many of our dreams and desires remain in the past. It is important to learn to realize your desires here and now, without putting them off until later.
Earlier we talked about why women shouldn’t be asked about their age.
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
