Friends are people, like-minded people who share your interests, with whom you feel happy, calm and safe.
Anna Ryazanova, an expert on psychology at the online publication BelNovosti, told us how to win friends.
You can find friends where you are interested: a club, a community, an educational institution, a job, etc.
That is, by showing a genuine interest in some activity and in other people who share the same interests, a natural contact can be established. Over time, it may or may not develop into friendship.
The combination of words “to win friends” is more of a psychological game, which most likely implies that the person is too intrusive, he shows excessive interest for a specific purpose.
The absence of friends in life or their presence affects a person’s self-esteem, success, interest in life or in a particular matter.
The pathological desire to have friends is connected with the fact that it is scary to be alone. Mutual interests and psychological health are the basis of any friendship. A very obsessive person will push others away and drag them into the Karpman triangle, in other words, the victim will look for a savior and an aggressor.
If people are psychologically healthy, they will avoid such contacts. Therefore, friends can be found by interests, by random situations in which we find ourselves, showing a sincere reaction.
It is thanks to her that we attract people to us. And in response, they show interest in our personality, activities, talents.
And winning people's attention comes from lack of freedom and insincere desire. It is a painful process.
