Words have tremendous power: they can support, inspire or destroy.
Some phrases, thrown carelessly, can offend a man so much that the relationship will lose harmony.
Let's look at what should be avoided.
"You always/never..." Such generalizations often sound like accusations. A man may feel that his efforts are not appreciated and his mistakes are elevated to the level of habit. It is better to focus on specific actions instead, without labeling.
"Why aren't you like..." Comparisons are a sore subject for most men. Especially when it comes to friends, acquaintances, or, even worse, exes. Such phrases undermine self-esteem and make you doubt your own importance.
"It's okay, I'll do it myself." This may sound like mistrust or even criticism. Men need to feel needed and useful. It's better to offer help or discuss how to cope with the task together.
"You don't care." This phrase is often used in the heat of the moment. However, it sounds like an accusation of indifference and can cause irritation. Instead, it is better to discuss why this feeling arose.
"Don't you understand?" These questions sound derogatory. They imply that the man is incapable of thinking logically or is doing something wrong. It's better to calmly explain your point of view.
"A real man should..." Stereotypes about what a man should be are offensive and irritating. Such statements put him in a box and push him to justify other people's expectations.
"It's none of your business." This phrase destroys trust and can make a man feel distant. In a healthy relationship, it is important to share and discuss any issues.
"You don't earn enough." Money is a sensitive topic. Such statements humiliate a man's dignity and can seriously spoil the atmosphere in a couple.
"I told you so!" This phrase rarely helps, and often angers. It sounds like an attempt to point out a mistake instead of supporting.
"I'm bored with you." Even if the emotions have died down a bit, such a statement can hurt. Instead, it's worth discussing how to add brightness to the relationship.
