You gave him the last piece of cheesecake and he didn't even say thank you? That's no small thing.
According to the Journal of Social Psychology , a lack of basic gratitude is the first sign of emotional unavailability.
Dr Ramandeep Singh , relationship expert and host of the Love Unlocked podcast, says: “If he changes the subject to himself three times in 10 minutes of conversation, it’s not selfishness – it’s lack of interest.”
Let's take the story of Alina from Moscow.
She met a man on Tinder, and on their first date he said, "I don't believe in love, but I like you." A month later, he disappeared.
Psychotherapist Esther Perel explains in an interview with Harper's Bazaar : "The phrase 'I'm not ready for a relationship' is not a sign of honesty; it's a red flag. It's code for 'I'm not ready for a relationship with you.'"
The second warning sign is his reaction to your emotions.
The Men's Health publication conducted an experiment: 200 men were shown a video of a woman crying. 73% of those who did not show empathy later admitted that they "did not see a future" with their partners.
The third marker is a lack of questions. “If he doesn’t ask about your dreams, fears, or even your favorite type of coffee, that’s not laziness. It’s indifference,” writes Cosmopolitan columnist Jenna Birch .
What to do? Ask him: "Where do you see us in a year?"
If the answer is vague, run.
As bestselling author of He's Just Not Yours, Steve Harvey , says, "A man who wants you won't keep you guessing."
