You catch yourself thinking that conversations have begun to resemble negotiations between two business partners: “Did you buy some bread?” – “Yes.” “Will you pick up the child?” – “Okay.”
And so it goes, day after day. Sound familiar? If so, your relationship may have already turned into a zombie – a walking corpse that only looks alive.
1. You don't fight anymore. Even if the conflicts seem pointless because no one is trying to prove or change anything, this is an alarm bell. When you don't care how he spends his weekend or who he texts, this is not trust - this is indifference.
2. You dream of a future… without him. You imagine moving to another apartment, changing jobs, or getting a dog – and there’s simply no room for him in these fantasies.
3. His touch has become unbearable. Before, his hand on your waist made your heart beat faster. Now you involuntarily pull away when he tries to hug you by the shoulders. The body does not lie: if physical closeness causes discomfort or irritation, the emotional connection has long been broken.
4. You've stopped sharing little things. When the desire to share little things disappears, so does the emotional closeness. You're not enemies - you're roommates who politely say hello in the hallway.
5. You can't remember the last time you laughed together. Laughter is an indicator of a living relationship. It's a warning sign if you catch yourself watching funny videos alone and his laughter at memes irritates you.
6. You make excuses not to spend time together. “I have to stay late at work,” “I have a headache”: this is not fatigue - it is a subconscious rebellion against the emptiness that has settled between you.
7. You dream of an affair on the side. Not about a specific person, but about feelings: for someone to make your heart beat again, give you flowers, write poetry. This is not cheating - this is a cry from the soul, which is suffocating in this relationship.
8. You compare him to others - and he loses. He used to be "the smartest", "the kindest". Now you notice how a colleague makes funny jokes, and a friend of a friend looks tenderly at his wife. You catch yourself thinking: "Why can't mine do that?" The answer is simple: because your "he" is no longer yours.
9. You cry alone. You hide your tears of hurt or disappointment in the bathroom. Because you know that if he asks, “What happened?” you won’t be able to explain. Or won’t want to. You’re tired of banging your head against the wall of his misunderstanding.
10. You live in the past. When the only thing that connects you is memories, not plans, the relationship has turned into a museum. And you are its only visitor.
