The friend zone is when one partner has romantic feelings, while the other treats him or her as a friend.
It happens that a person is afraid to admit his feelings and consciously remains in the friend zone.
He is nearby, can help with something, be a good friend, but in his heart he wants a serious relationship. And there is a situation when a person confessed his feelings, but did not receive an unambiguous refusal.
For example, they say to him: "I don't want any relationship yet, let's just be friends." Such a relationship may even imply spending a lot of time and even intimate relationships without obligations.
The danger of such relationships is that they can end painfully for the one in the friend zone at the moment when the chosen one starts a serious relationship. Psychologist Ksenia Matur will tell you how to recognize the friend zone and set boundaries without offending your friend.
How to recognize the friend zone
- If you have feelings for a person and told them about them, but did not receive a specific answer (reciprocity or not does not matter), then, most likely, you are considered as a backup option until someone more worthy appears.
- If you are in a friendly relationship with a claim to love (as it seems to you), there may even be intimate relations and romance. But at the same time, you are not introduced to friends and are not introduced to the inner circle, but on the contrary, your relationship is hidden in every possible way.
How to get out of the friend zone
The most important thing, if you haven't talked about your feelings yet, is to say them. You can do this as carefully as possible, for example: "I would like to have a closer relationship with you, I really like you, I want to get to know you better, I like you." It is not necessary to immediately throw out loud words and shout about universal love!
In any relationship, the strong foundation is clarity of messages and intentions, it is important to tell each other everything honestly.
If you have already talked about your feelings and have not received a clear answer, then it is worth talking again. Find out if the other person's mood has changed. Perhaps feelings have appeared there too, but he does not dare to talk about them. If you receive a refusal for the second time, then it is worth deciding to look for a relationship with another person.
It is important to work on your self-esteem and grow your self-confidence. When you are self-confident, with high self-esteem, live an interesting life, have many friends, activities and hobbies. An interesting and self-confident person attracts a lot of attention and arouses a lot of interest from others!
Expert: Beautiful (Sysoeva) Ksenia
