No matter how much you love each other, no matter how wonderful your relationship is, if certain types of toxic behavior are present, over time it can cause you to feel unhappy and depressed.
Typically, some of the most toxic behaviors involve inappropriate demands that your partner may place on you.
What is something a loving and accepting partner will never ask for?
He shouldn't ask you to change.
If your partner truly loves you, then he/she loves you with all your strengths and weaknesses. When a person loves, he/she is ready to accept any imperfection in another.
If there are no feelings, your partner will try to change you not because he doesn’t like certain traits of your character, but because of his own insecurities and complexes that he wants to overcome.
Complexes and self-doubt force such people to try to change another person, rather than work on themselves.
He shouldn't make you feel guilty.
A toxic partner will blame you for all problems, even if it is not your fault. They will never take the blame for anything, will not admit it, will not apologize. It is much easier to shift responsibility from yourself to someone else, so they will try to blame you for everything.
He must hide you from others.
If a man truly loves you, he will want the whole world to know about it. But if for some reason he wants to keep your relationship a secret, this is a serious signal that you should not ignore.
He shouldn't force you to give up your interests.
If your partner truly loves you, he or she will be happy for your successes, accept your interests and hobbies. Even if he or she doesn't want to participate in some of them, he or she won't judge you and will allow you to continue enjoying what brings you pleasure.
He shouldn't force you to agree with him on everything.
One of the characteristic signs of insecure men is their desire to put pressure on their partner to agree with them in everything. They have difficulty accepting other people's judgments because they are indecisive in their own opinions.
Therefore, it is easier for them to put pressure on their partners to agree to everything. In this way, they provide themselves with a false sense of comfort and superiority.
He shouldn't ask you to ignore your successes.
Another very characteristic sign of toxic partners is their desire to constantly belittle the successes and achievements of the other. This is an attempt to control the partner and suppress his self-esteem and self-respect.
A loving partner will admire your accomplishments and encourage you to keep going. However, a person who does not love you will do everything in their power to suppress your aspirations in order to ensure their own comfort and sense of importance.
Earlier we wrote about why some men choose older women.
