Discrimination against single people is called singlism. The phenomenon is widespread in society due to the lack of tact in many people.
Victims of singlism, most often women, have a very difficult time when they listen to another portion of unpleasant phrases, hoping that one day society will begin to accept representatives of the fair sex without a husband and family more adequately.
"Are you still single?"
There is no deadline for the process of building relationships and family. When one girl thinks it is necessary to get married and have a child at 18, another studies, builds a career and already with a foundation begins to create a family. By asking this kind of question to a woman without a relationship, a person sort of clarifies that being alone is not normal.
It does not occur to such people that the choice in favor of loneliness can be a balanced one. Moreover, perhaps her loneliness, even conscious, can be a burden. It is difficult to imagine how hard and painful it is for her to hear about her problem from the outside.
"Your demands are unrealistic, maybe you should lower the bar"
Questions and discussions about the bar women set for potential partners have gained momentum with the advent of dating apps and social media.
The large selection of potential partners allowed women to understand that they could not put up with a whole list of negative qualities of a suitor, but continue to actively search for the ideal.
And this is not bad if the woman really knows the clear features of her future partner, and is not just playing around. Questions and requests to lower their demands sound as if the woman is not worthy of having what she deserves.
"Stop searching and love will find you"
When a woman is passionate about work, education, and self-development, then meeting the man of her dreams will truly seem like a complete surprise, because she did nothing for this.
However, stopping the search and immediately meeting a worthy man is only an exception. Believing in this will only prolong a woman's loneliness. Advice on the topic of stopping the search is inappropriate.
People who give them do not know how desperate the woman is, because she is actively trying to change her life without giving up. By the way, these same advisers will say in a few months "why are you sitting and doing nothing for your happiness?"
"Believe in love and you will definitely meet someone"
A phrase of consolation that emphasizes that for a single woman, finding a man is a lifelong endeavor, the only future achievement. With such expressions, people usually want to cheer up a single lady, but at the same time hint that they feel sorry for her.
Phrases like these emphasize that society does not believe in her self-esteem, success, strength, or in her as a person in general. In order to no longer hear offensive phrases, you need to answer: "Then you don't need to worry about my personal life anymore."
"Have you really found someone!"
"Really", "finally", "it can't be" and other expressions emphasize that a woman's existence before a man appeared in her life was insignificant, boring and meaningless. This is singlism in all its ideology.
This expression devalues a woman and humiliates her. People who say something like this are not socially developed, perceiving a partner as the only way to express themselves. It is much more important to be happy for a woman, saying that everything will work out in the best possible way in her relationship.
A woman's loneliness can have many reasons, and she is unlikely to share them with everyone around her. Therefore, you need to control your phrases about her status, without demonstrating a lack of tact.
