Your relationship can safely be called successful. But for some reason you are increasingly overcome by sadness
Perhaps you are not getting the attention you need from your spouse?
This often happens in relationships between couples who have been living together for several years.
The love affair has become stable, habitual, pleasant and steady. The husband no longer devotes much time to you, does not court you as in the old days. But everything is not so bad: the husband's interest in you has not disappeared, and he himself has not gone on a spree.
He just has other pressing and important things to do: building a career, making money, doing repairs, and much more. You feel an all-consuming loneliness inside.
It seems to you that a loved one has completely forgotten about you, although this is not true.
Check out these 7 signs that confirm that you are irritated, sad or angry because of the lack of attention from your chosen one.
1. You can't get by without nagging
You consider every action and every deed of your husband to be wrong. He hangs shirts in the closet carelessly, chomps at the table, throws dirty shoes in the hallway.
You think that you criticize your life partner quite objectively, because you want him to become better. Turn on your logical thinking: will your accusations help him develop such qualities as homeliness and neatness? Of course not.
The point is this: you need care and positive emotions. On a subconscious level, you make a decision: it is better for your husband to be angry or offended at you than to continue to show indifference.
2. You follow him everywhere
He lies down on the sofa and you sit next to him. He goes to the kitchen and you head there too to ask your husband: "Do you want to make some tea or eat a couple of sandwiches?" Of course, the man gets furious at such behavior.
You don't understand why? He, like any other person, needs personal space. And you shamelessly interfere with it and do not allow your other half to be alone with their thoughts. How can you be offended by your chosen one if you yourself behave incorrectly?
3. You make him feel guilty
How to make your husband pay attention to you? That's right, start manipulating the feeling of guilt.
As soon as your chosen one buys himself a nice little thing (the same can of beer), you get offended and tell him everything: "You made yourself happy, but as always, you forgot about me! I work from morning till night and bustle about the house until late at night. Don't I deserve a box of chocolates?!"
But this tactic will definitely not lead to a good result. You will be left without sweets and attention.
4. You make scandals out of nothing
One day, an interesting thought occurs to you: you are a talented debater. Any excuse is good for a heated argument. Your husband tries to convince you that the wallpaper is green, but you insist that it is turquoise. He is going to go to work in a T-shirt, but you make him put on a shirt and tie.
At first, the man conflicts with you, thereby giving you the attention you need. But soon your spouse gets tired of such mini-scandals, and he simply brushes you off like an annoying mosquito.
5. You are irritated by your husband’s long hours at work.
You might think he goes to work as if it were a holiday! In reality, you are upset not because your husband is fully booked. You are worried that when he comes home he does not kiss or hug you. And you are waiting for him so much!
6. You accuse him of not loving you.
This fail-safe weapon is used by many short-sighted wives. It is disposable, so do not get carried away with it. All subsequent times, your husband will answer you with displeasure: "Of course, I love you, just leave me alone!"
After that, he will hurry to disappear from your field of vision. The man will not understand that in this way you are trying to get from him the affection and care that he lacks.
7. You are seething with jealousy when he communicates with friends.
You are not delighted with his friends. They cause you the most terrible irritation. Each of these men, in your opinion, is endowed with terrible vices. The first one left his wife with two children, the second one took out a large loan and has been borrowing from your faithful ever since, the third one has visited so many times to drink beer and have a good snack.
In fact, you dislike them because of your own jealousy. You are convinced that your spouse spends too much time in the company of these slobs. In short, they are taking away your loved one from you.
