He who loves not for life, does not love truly. Ancient wisdom.
Psychologist Timur Yusupov told how jealousy affects a person.
Those who loved were jealous. In our time of active promotion of Western values, when marital infidelity is presented as the norm, being faithful and not jealous is already a mild degree of heroism.
In order to understand how jealousy affects a person, let's define the main reasons for jealousy. People are jealous because:
- there is no lasting trust in your loved one;
- lack of self-confidence, comparisons with others give rise to feelings of inferiority;
- the other half, consciously or not, gives reasons for jealousy;
- The media creates insecurity by programming the psyche to create suspicions and jealousy.
A traditional family implies trust and loyalty in relationships. Will a girl want to create a large family if she is not sure about her husband, if she has suspicions that he can leave her, leaving her with the children?
Will a man want to build a serious relationship with a girl if there are doubts that she will be faithful to him?
Therefore, what increases trust in the family, helps to preserve the family and strengthen relationships. What does not help to increase the level of trust, destroys the family. This is ironclad logic.
And anyone who says that jealousy helps strengthen the family is either unconsciously mistaken or consciously contributing to the destruction of traditional family values.
At the same time, trying to strengthen a relationship with jealousy is like putting out a fire with wood. In the short term, it may have some expected effect, but in the long term, jealousy destroys the relationship.
Therefore, the consequences of jealousy are conflicts, mistrust, suspicions, deterioration of relationships and their breakdown.
Moreover, one can ask the question: what do you call someone who consciously enjoys making others suffer? A sadist? We know about the "torments of jealousy", about the suffering that jealousy causes.
Anyone who makes their loved one jealous shows signs of a conflict personality. Because jealousy is a reason for conflict. A person who treats the psyche of their neighbor with care will not consciously create reasons for jealousy.
It is noteworthy that in the dictionary of the Russian language, in addition to the definition that jealousy is doubt in someone’s love, fidelity, a second, outdated meaning is given: to care about something, to show diligence, zeal in relation to something.
So it turns out that, for example, a girl lacks care and attention, and she, with her behavior, creates a reason for the young man to be more zealous in showing his love.
It is curious that since ancient times everyone has known that friendship between a man and a woman is possible only if they are not at all sexually attractive to each other, but even such friendship weakens when night falls or under the influence of alcohol.
Therefore, a sincere friend of the opposite sex is an extremely rare phenomenon and has grounds for suspicion. Meeting a friend is a common cause of jealousy.
How does jealousy affect a person? In many cases, a person loses peace, becomes irritable, anxious, unbalanced, suspicious, touchy, aggressive.
The jealous person hatches plans for revenge and may begin to take revenge. It turns out that jealousy develops into a real war. Both will definitely suffer with varying success: the one who provokes jealousy and the one who is jealous.
In order for lovers to remove the causes of jealousy, they should talk and directly discuss the issues that are bothering them.
It is better to discuss everything once and thoroughly than to suffer for months. You can agree on what is better to do or not to do, so as not to cause unnecessary worries and a reason for anxiety to your loved one.
As a result, we have found that jealousy is the rust that appears on the union of a man and a woman. If jealousy is not eliminated, then it will only be a matter of time before this union falls apart.
Therefore, we will treat each other with care!
