Love. What a powerful word. All of us, both men and women, need love very much. Love means acceptance, sincerity, tenderness, care, willingness to give and take responsibility, reliability, selflessness, generosity.
And the more we demonstrate these qualities, the more we receive in return. However, not everyone can understand and feel this feeling. Many are looking for it, but never find it, notes the expert of the online publication Belnovosti, Ekaterina Aleksandrovna Prushinskaya , psychologist, mentor.
However, not everyone can experience such a wonderful feeling. Everything is much simpler than it seems, and there is really no need to look for anything. Everything is inside us!
How to understand whether love is real or imaginary? How to feel it, to sense it?
You constantly think about a person and cannot live a day without him. Should we assume that this is love? No. It is just a simple infatuation.
You feel jealous. Maybe it's love? And again, no. Here you need those feelings that your parents didn't give you in childhood.
Your other half is just perfect, and you admire him constantly. Alas, this is not love either. Rather, you are stroking your ego. A feeling of unworthiness.
Such manifestations as fear, jealousy, dependence, manipulation, control, claims, reproaches, destroy relationships and have nothing to do with love.
Love is actually a long-awaited deep feeling that comes deservedly and naturally. Understanding from a half-word, spiritual unity - this is love. First, you need to learn to humbly and calmly accept a person as he is, take care of him free of charge, accept his individuality.
The stage of love is higher than simple attraction or habit, it is in love that people open up and harmoniously complement each other, their shortcomings are carefully smoothed out, and their virtues are reflected in each other. This is a calm and joyful acceptance of the whole person.
Imagine now a baby in your arms. Defenseless, pure, sincere. What feeling arises? Warmth inside, chest expanding, feeling of complete acceptance. This feeling when you love not for something, but without conditions.
Do you love yourself? Do you accept yourself? After all, love is also a conscious perception. Only by accepting and loving yourself, you can truly love everyone. Where to start? When a person is immersed in the feeling of love, the world around him - no matter how imperfect it may be - sees it as beautiful. First, fill yourself with this feeling. Only in this way can you fully fill the people around you with love.
Imagine now a drying oasis in the middle of a hot desert. Can it fill the surrounding people, animals, plants with moisture? No. It first needs to fill itself. The same with a person. Before feeling love and being able to give it, it is necessary to fill itself with it and shine like a pendulum to which fireflies will fly. Because it shines. It shines with light. A person filled with love shines. Shines both from the inside and from the outside.
How to fill yourself with love?
Surround yourself with what you like. What you like to do, eat, listen to, watch. Surround yourself with people who are easy, interesting, and who you like. Make a list of everything you love and fill your day with love.
If you have enough objects around you that evoke love and admiration in you, express these feelings and do not let negativity into your life.
Of course, you can continue to live as usual and not strain yourself. Here, everyone has their own choice: to be a stale cracker or a beacon.
The only question is how satisfied you are with your current state. After all, it can be completely different, taking small steps towards yourself, the world will sparkle with bright colors of love again. Like in childhood. If only I could remember…
