When talking about your beloved man, the main thing is not to confuse two states: “this is the one I need” and “I can’t live without him.”
Psychologist Olga Nesterenko told how to understand that this is your man.
In the first case, you are a self-sufficient person with adequate self-esteem, and the appearance of a man next to you creates a synergy of happiness and pleasure in your life. In the second case, it is a neurotic state.
And no matter what the man is like, you will always find something to fight, compete with, trying to prove your love and demand the same from him. And in this case, he is definitely not your man and you are not his woman.
So, how can you feel that next to you is the one you need?
Let's look at some points by which you will recognize Him.
The most obvious and important point is that you feel happy with this man.
When he calls, you have a smile on your face, not a sad grimace with rolling eyes. You enjoy spending time together with him. Comfort is what you associate with your man.
With him you feel safe. Your man will come to the rescue in a difficult situation, be it a heavy bag, a breakdown in the apartment or protection from attacks from others. He will always be on your side and will not allow rude treatment, no matter what the situation.
He keeps his word. You can rely on such a man, because he is one of those who said - did. If you ask him for help, you know that the request will be fulfilled. Planned events will definitely take place, but if there are reasons to cancel them, you will be the first to know about it.
Unpleasant “I forgot to warn you” surprises are not about your man.
Your man listens to you and hears you. He is interested in your hobbies and activities. He delves into stories and willingly participates in dialogue. He remembers the preferences and desires that you talk about, so that later he can take advantage of the opportunity and surprise you.
Yes, your man loves you and most importantly wants to surprise you. He tries to do everything to please you and cares about you being happy with him. This is the nature of a man - he himself feels good when his woman feels good.
Your man can even quit smoking if it makes you uncomfortable, this has been proven in practice.
Listens to your mood, feelings and emotions. He knows what can lift your spirits and when not to approach you.
For example, he won't sort things out, knowing that he just needs to wait until you rest or eat, because he understands when your poor health is caused by physical discomfort. And yes, your man will always make sure that you are well-fed and warm.
He hugs you just like that at every opportunity. He touches you when he passes by, gently runs his hand over your arm or something else, even though you have been married for 10 years.
Your man will always find time to call or reply to a text message. The excuse “I was busy” is not about him. Any man will find a minute to reply to a message or a call from his beloved woman. It’s all about desire.
Your man does not give you any reason to be jealous. He is not interested in women of the opposite sex except you, and he will not allow himself to flirt with them, be it your friend, his colleague or just a stranger.
He doesn't communicate with his exes, explaining that they are "just friends" if you don't like it.
And one more important point - you remain yourself. You don't have to be disingenuous in communication with him or keep silent about your feelings. You freely say what you consider necessary and act according to your life principles.
