The main thing is to understand that separation will in any case bring you happiness and change your life for the better.
Psychologist Yulia Bidzha told how to survive a breakup and get rid of emotional dependence.
Even if it seems to you now that it is not so. Even if it seems that you have lost something very important, an important person, then over time you will see how life puts everything in its place.
You will feel grateful that everything happened this way.
In order to quickly get rid of the feeling of sadness, melancholy and longing, you need to pay as much attention to yourself as possible.
Specially evoke positive emotions in yourself every day, make the manifestation of positive emotions your most important work.
Imagine that you have a loved one in your home who needs emotional support, who is going through a breakup. What would you do if he were nearby? Most likely, you would tell him jokes, take him to the movies, show him various meditation techniques, evoke positive emotions in him.
This is the same thing you need to do every day in relation to yourself. And even if your mind says: “Nothing will help. Why are you doing this? This is all insincere. This is all untrue,” do not give in.
The mind has this job - to keep you in a state of depression, it is very beneficial for it to keep you in a state of unhappiness.
So if you are currently experiencing a breakup, loss, pain, sadness, you need to understand that the most important work for the near future is to make yourself happy. This work cannot be missed - we work without days off and vacations. You make yourself happy every day.
Remember what you liked as a child? What gives you pleasure now? What gives you true joy, true pleasure?
And every day, do at least three things in relation to yourself - go to the places you've wanted to go for a long time, walk where you've wanted to walk for a long time, entertain yourself in every possible way - go to the theater, to the ballet, read interesting books, watch interesting films and begin to explore your state.
Don't try to escape into the outer life, instead, explore your emotions, your sadness. And look at how your body and emotions manifest.
When you stop running away from yourself, but, on the contrary, come to yourself, then the state of bitterness and sadness will begin to go away very quickly.
The same applies to emotional dependence. We are dependent only as long as we direct all our emotions, feelings and desires towards another person.
As soon as we start directing all this towards ourselves, the dependence disappears. The thread that connected us with another person, this rotten cord that created a bunch of problems for us, dissolves immediately as soon as we stop giving attention to another person.
To do this, you need to switch your attention to yourself, again, pay attention to yourself, give yourself positive emotions and make this your most important work. It is very important to understand that no one else can do this for you.
The biggest mistake is to sit and wait for someone to come and pull you out of this state. To entertain you, give you gifts, positive emotions, take you to the theater. You can sit like this your whole life, waiting for someone.
But this person already exists, and this person is YOU. If you really remember this, then everything will work out very quickly.
