Parents note that they feel good when their child feels good. They worry about him and want everything to work out for him in the best possible way.
They often notice that they go too far, that they are sometimes too protective and controlling. But they are afraid to give it up because they have concerns about their child doing undesirable things.
In fact, you can still be firm as a parent when trying to raise a cheerful child. Following a few tips will help you find a balance in this regard.
Exhale
All outbursts of the child should be responded to calmly. Before entering into a dialogue with the child, parents should make their emotions subside, and only then begin to talk.
This will prevent the conflict from worsening and will not cause psychological trauma to the child with unpleasant words. This will only benefit his psyche and mood.
Freedom to emotions
Adults differ from children in that they can control their feelings, that they are able to express them correctly. A child cannot do this sometimes, due to which he breaks down, begins to behave in a bad way.
It is not worth stopping this, so that the negativity does not accumulate and does not leave a mark on the child's soul. Only then should you discuss what happened with him, explain how else you could have declared your condition.
Setting the Boundaries of Compassion
It is worth sympathizing and empathizing with the child. In this case, he will feel support, will understand that he is not alone, that he has support. It will be easier for him to rejoice in what is happening in this case.
But at the same time, it is important for mom and dad to remember the importance of remaining true to their position. If the problem must be solved in a certain way, then it is not worth giving in to it.
Create distance
You shouldn't get too close to your child. You can't identify with him, because otherwise you can influence the child's self-esteem and set him up for disappointment.
If you keep some distance, your child will be able to live his own life, will be able to feel satisfied and happy.
All these tips are mandatory to follow. In this case, the child will grow up cheerful and will feel happy.
