Men promise - women constantly remind them of it. And in the end they become nagging spouses who are always dissatisfied with everything.
However, ladies have their own good reasons to point to words that were once said. Representatives of the fair sex are more responsible, so they prefer not to give anyone unnecessary hopes. If a girl says "no", then this means exactly "no", but in no way "maybe", "later", "come on, conquer me".
Ladies are more specific in their desires, no matter how much they are ascribed otherwise. Therefore, they often fall into the trap of the principle "I measure people by myself." However, gentlemen very often play a game called "A man gave his word, a man took his word back."
And here it is worth understanding why exactly they do this. This determines how much you can trust this or that representative of the stronger sex, says Pavel Rakov , an expert of the online publication Belnovosti - a psychologist, coach, creator of the cult training "In fact, I am smart, but I live like a fool."
1. He doesn't love you
You can live with a man, be married to him, bear him three children, but when love fades, so do the promises. Why try extra hard for the sake of someone you don’t even want to look at? Of course, this raises a question from another area. Why then doesn’t he admit his cooled feelings? Because he either considers his wife a convenient woman (see point 10), or is afraid to hurt her with his words, looking for the right moment to break up.
2. He is a clever manipulator.
Yes, there are some very clever manipulators among gentlemen. They promise to work on the relationship, if only the beloved does not leave. Or they say that they will definitely nail a shelf and take out the trash, so that the wife will finally leave them alone and feed them dinner.
One way or another, they always get their way, and after... Afterwards, you can forget about the promises, because the goal was not to fulfill them! At the same time, a little later, you can put all the blame on the woman: she didn’t watch her closely enough, she got mad, she nagged, she didn’t remind her.
3. He is a typical irresponsible type.
No matter how old an adult is, sometimes in his soul he is a real boy who wants to have fun, play, frolic, but not keep his promises. This phenomenon has a name - infantilism, that is, the inability to take responsibility for one's words and actions.
Let someone else do it, but not him! Okay, but why do such men still make promises? They should keep quiet or make someone else do it right away. It's simple: it's better to promise so that the woman will leave you alone and let you finish the game in peace, go to a football match, have a beer with friends.
4. He is prone to frequent mood swings.
Yesterday he promised to play with the kids and take them to the zoo? And today he suddenly changed his plans and went to help his friends with repairs? Well, that's the kind of person he is - with a constantly changing mood. As a rule, such a man is not interested in the lives of others, he is used to indulging his desires. Routine scares him, clear goals kill all the fun and positivity. Perhaps, for the sake of work and earnings, he will keep his seven Fridays a week, but for the sake of his close circle - definitely not.
5. He wanted to make an impression.
A man in the candy-bouquet stage sometimes does not look like himself. His desire to make an indelible impression on a woman can lead to great difficulties.
A gentleman promises mountains of gold, if only his beloved would smile and clap her hands with joy, like a girl. But often he has no opportunity to keep his word. It is up to you to decide whether to forgive such behavior or not.
6. He fell ill.
This is indeed a valid reason for not fulfilling a promise on time. When a man is ill, he is unlikely to be able to do physical or mental work.
In this case, it is worth understanding and forgiving. However, observe whether there is a sharp surge in chronic diseases during the period when he gave his word. If this happens regularly, then perhaps we are talking about a manipulator (see point 2), who skillfully covers up his mistakes.
7. He uses you exclusively for intimacy
Representatives of the stronger sex always classify girls into two types - for love and for sex. In the latter case, you don't have to keep your word.
What difference does it make what the next lady, needed solely to satisfy physiological needs, will think? If one leaves, there will always be another in her place, with whom the man will do the same.
8. He broke up with you
When a couple decides to break up (even if not completely), the man automatically takes away all promises. She is no longer his woman, so let her solve her problems herself.
Sometimes there are manipulations of breakups, when quarrels and serious conflicts with subsequent departure are used to do nothing. And then you can return to your partner completely reset and promise something else. Until the next breakup.
9. He is a pathological fantasist.
Such people are occasionally encountered on the life path of women. They are pathological dreamers who promise and fulfill in their heads. But all these processes are usually mental, with the only difference being that the first one is always voiced.
And there is no need to report on the second one, because in the visions of such a man (indistinguishable from reality, by the way) everything is already ready! He took his beloved to a concert, and helped with the cleaning, and checked the children's homework, and walked the dog.
10. He thinks you are a convenient woman.
There is no love, sex is satisfactory, but the man does not go anywhere? He is simply comfortable with you, especially if you fully serve him in everyday life, and also help him financially.
In fact, you are playing the role of a silent and unpaid servant and, perhaps, a beautiful addition to his majestic person. You can make promises to such people, but the master is not obliged to keep his words. And a convenient woman will endure, endure and forgive.
