First date, another one and another one. Going on dates and still no results?
Tatyana Persico , psychologist, psychotherapist, relationship expert, told how to understand on the first date whether a man is right for you.
What to do to avoid wasting time. After all, already on the first date you can understand whether your acquaintance has prospects or is not worth continuing.
In fact, you can determine whether to go on a date or not by correspondence. But many do not want to waste time on long correspondence and prefer to meet immediately.
And so you go on your first date with a person you know practically nothing about. How to behave, what to ask, how to prepare. There are a lot of nuances, but first of all, I recommend that you relax.
When going on a date, set yourself up for a good, easy time. Chat and enjoy it. And no serious plans - this is important! Especially for women.
If you succeed, you will be able to adequately assess the person sitting opposite you.
So, your task is to first determine why you need a relationship. What scenario is most comfortable for you to follow, what roles should partners play, how to distribute responsibilities and negotiate.
Later in the conversation you will be able to find out everything that is important to you. But do not interrogate under any circumstances. This will only push the person away, and it is important for you to create an atmosphere of trust.
Want to know how a person makes a decision? Regardless of whether it is a woman or a man, pay attention to how he chooses a meeting place, food in a restaurant. Does he take the initiative, consult with you or give you the right to choose?
Do you care how your potential boyfriend treats people in general? Watch how he talks to the waiter, talks about his exes, and the tone he uses when talking to you.
I wonder what his plans are for the future? Don't ask direct questions, it looks like an interview. Ask him to imagine his ideal day. Where he would like to spend it, what to fill it with. In the process, you will understand whether there are other participants in the process or just one main character.
You are probably wondering what your potential partner's self-esteem is like? Ask him what he is most proud of in his life and what he is most disappointed with. Draw your own conclusions.
Want to know how similar your values are? Ask them to recall the happiest moment from their past life. What evokes a storm of emotions to a greater extent? Professional success, family traditions or a group of friends.
The most important thing, and this point can be highlighted first, is how you feel next to this person. Are you comfortable, do you want to come closer or move away, take their hand or recoil from accidental contact? If you experience physical discomfort, even if you cannot logically explain it, this is not your person. Next!
These recommendations are suitable for both women and men. Trust your intuition and common sense. Leave your dreams for another occasion, because you are not looking for a partner for a couple of days.
