Why We Yell at Children: There Are Only Three Main Reasons

13.12.2024 15:13

Sometimes parents get irritated even by their own child.

There are quite a few reasons that cause that very irritation and force parents to start yelling, and they all depend on the specific situation and the parent.

But they can all be reduced to a few factors.

Fatigue

The main reason among many is fatigue. When talking to adults, we can control ourselves because we know that we will get a rebuff if we lose our temper. But a child cannot respond in kind, so he becomes a "punching pad".

Besides, a child is the only person who doesn't need a reason to love you. Even if you do something truly terrible, the baby will not stop loving you. Parents know this, which is why they sometimes lose their cool.

Child
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Childhood trauma

Inside every adult there is a little girl or boy with their own childhood traumas and experiences.

At one time, we were also offended by our parents. For this reason, in a moment of acute situation with our child, we can fall into that very childish state.

Let's give an example: a mother will probably feel irritated when her child asks for the fifth candy, if in her childhood she was not given candy at all.

Unfulfilled expectations

When planning leisure time, putting your baby to bed, and other similar situations, it is worth lowering your expectations of your baby. Instead, imagine all possible scenarios and take into account past negative experiences.

Elena Shimanovskaya Author: Elena Shimanovskaya Editor of Internet resources


Content
  1. Fatigue
  2. Childhood trauma
  3. Unfulfilled expectations