Are you sure that your child, who is engrossed in the game, does not hear your conversations?
Children pick up snippets of phrases like radios, even when they seem completely immersed in their own activities.
Some topics that adults consider “safe” leave cracks in children’s minds, affecting their trust in the world.
The first taboo is discussing money issues. Children take phrases like “We can’t afford it” or “We don’t have enough money to pay the rent again” literally. They start blaming themselves for their parents’ difficulties or living in fear that the family will be left without food.
Even if you talk about loans or debts “casually,” the child may become withdrawn, afraid of becoming a burden.
The second is criticism from loved ones. “Your grandfather always ruins everything” or “Aunt Lena said something stupid again” – such comments destroy the child’s picture of the world, where relatives should be a support.
The child begins to doubt the security of family ties, and later transfers this fear to friends and partners.
The third danger zone is talking about fears and anxieties that are not related to children. Discussing illnesses, politics, or global catastrophes creates a sense in children that the world is a threatening place.
They don't yet know how to filter information, so your words can turn into nightmares or inexplicable fears.
The fourth point is assessing the appearance or character of other people. "Look at how fat the woman is" or "The man is dressed strangely" teach the child to judge those who are different. Later, this will result in a rejection of one's own uniqueness or aggression towards peers.
The fifth rule is to avoid sarcasm towards the child, even if he "doesn't listen". Jokes like "Of course, you forgot everything as always" or "A genius, not a son" are stored in the memory like labels.
Children believe every word you say, so such phrases become their inner voice.
If you need to discuss something important, wait until your child is asleep or go into another room. Remember: even “background” chatter affects how he will perceive himself and others in 10-20 years.
