Children who behave perfectly simply do not exist.
Any child, even the most obedient and calm, will sooner or later do something wrong.
How to correctly point out a mistake to a child and ask him to perform an important action or, on the contrary, stop?
Many moms and dads use phrases like: “Get out of there!”, “Come on, stop it!”, “Fix that bad grade right now!”, “Get to your homework quickly!”, “You didn’t clean your room well!”
All of these lines are bad: they rarely help correct your child's behavior.
Parents need to express their dissatisfaction differently.
The essence of the "I-message" technique
Did the baby do something wrong? Don't criticize the child directly and don't use imperative verbs!
It is better to express your own feelings by using the pronoun "I".
For example, instead of saying, "Get up quickly! You'll be late for school!" you should say, "I'm worried about you because there's very little time left before school starts."
Instead of “You’re a bad student!” it’s better to say the following: “I’m concerned about the large number of twos in your report card.”
What is good about this approach? Firstly, formally the mother or father does not criticize the child, limiting themselves to expressing their own feelings: psychological pressure is minimal.
Secondly, a child who understands the feelings of his parents becomes more obedient.
