No married couple is immune from divorce.
Unfortunately, life circumstances may develop in such a way that a man and a woman come to the conclusion that it is necessary to dissolve the marriage.
The situation is difficult for both ex-spouses.
And a man and woman going through a difficult period can make a serious mistake: forget about the child’s feelings.
Keep in mind: for your son or daughter, the divorce of your parents is also a huge blow.
You must come to the aid of the baby. Please pay attention to the following recommendations.
Explain clearly to the child what happened
Do not hide the divorce from your child under any circumstances. You will still have to answer the question: "Why does dad come home so rarely?"
It is better to immediately, honestly and clearly explain to your son or daughter what happened. Tell your child that mom and dad cannot live together for certain reasons.
Answer the child's questions
The baby will probably ask a lot of clarifying questions. Do not ignore them or get irritated under any circumstances.
Give as honest answers as possible. Warn your child about upcoming changes in life (moving, changing schools, etc.).
Don't make your child hide his emotions about what happened. Be with your child more often, do everything so that he trusts you.
"It's not your fault"
Be sure to explain to your child that it is not his fault that his parents divorced.
Unfortunately, many children come to the following conclusion: “It’s all because of me.” Especially if the parents get irritated or remain silent when the child asks about the reasons for the divorce once again.
Don't blame your spouse
The parent with whom the child remains to live should under no circumstances blame their spouse for what happened in the presence of the child.
Don't tell your child what a "bad" dad he has or what a "bad" mom he has.
The second parent still remains a close person for the child. Therefore, do not cause psychological trauma to the child.
"We love you"
Parents who are divorced should immediately tell their child: “We love you and will always love you.”
The one who leaves the family should see his or her son or daughter periodically. Do everything so that the child does not think that one of the parents has "abandoned" him or her.
