Difficulty expressing your feelings and emotions is a barrier. Sometimes parents cannot open their hearts to their children, but sometimes the opposite happens – children become withdrawn.
Overcoming this barrier will not be difficult if you have the desire.
Scientists have found out which three simple and original phrases will help eliminate the invisible barrier between children and parents.
Harvard University staff worked on the problem. They managed to identify three key phrases that parents should remember.
Ask your child to describe his feelings or emotions.
There is no need to label things, because good and bad emotions simply do not exist.
There is a lack of understanding, an inability to explain or describe in words, which leads to whims, hysterics, and misunderstandings.
Parents should understand this first and foremost.
Tell your child about your condition
There is no need to hide your inner tension from your children. Don't wait until all the accumulated negativity spills out on the first person you meet.
If you remain calm all the time (or seem to be calm), then children will develop the wrong attitude towards their parents’ capabilities.
The worst thing is that they themselves will start to hide their feelings and emotions. This will not happen if parents and children are able to tell each other about their pain.
Explain to your child that all experiences are important.
The main mistake is using phrases like “it’s no big deal”, “everything will be fine”, “we need to wait”, etc.
It would be right to explain to children that they need to be able to react correctly to every situation, even if the situation has gotten out of control.
It is impossible to learn this right away, but there is simply no other way to cope with negative emotions.
Earlier we talked about how to keep a child busy when he walks around the house and doesn’t know what to play.
