Many seemingly innocent phrases said by parents can ruin a child’s character and life.
We tell you what you should never say to children.
You won't leave the table until you've eaten everything.
In many families, food and eating are elevated to a cult. And not all parents understand that a small child does not actually need much food.
Overfeeding can lead not only to obesity, but also to eating disorders.
It's time for lunch
Of course, it is necessary to stick to a feeding schedule, but you should not force your child to eat if he is not hungry.
Nothing bad will happen if a child eats his lunch not at 13:00, but at 13:30.
Move it!
Asking a child to get ready faster when he is struggling to fasten tiny buttons on his shirt with his little fingers is too much.
By rushing your child, you only make the situation worse: your child will become nervous and will get ready even more slowly.
Everyone has their own pace, adults can be slow too. Get used to your child's temperament.
March to the corner
Punishment without explanation is not the best way to make a child realize his guilt.
The child perceives such punishment as a duty that must be served so that he can start misbehaving again.
Over time, the child may stop being afraid of punishment and become simply uncontrollable.
Explain to your child why he is wrong, why exactly he is being punished, and don’t send him to the corner.
Stop crying over nothing
For a child, his problems are not nonsense at all. The more persistently you convince the child of the insignificance of his "trouble", the louder and longer he will cry. It can lead to real hysterics.
Let the child experience his little tragedy, let him express his feelings, it is good for the psyche.
You are already an adult
Teaching independence to a child is very important, but everything has its time. A chick flies out of the nest when it is ready for it. You should not break off contact with your child prematurely.
How many times do I have to tell you?
It is important to understand that a child's brain works differently than an adult's. According to research, children under 6 years of age cannot think about two things at once or do two things at the same time.
Be patient and remember that repetition is the mother of learning.
Then I won't love you
Never say this phrase, and don't speculate on the topic of affection at all.
A small child does not understand that you will always love him no matter what, and takes these words very seriously.
Phrases like these can lead to the child developing increased anxiety.
