First, let's understand that aggression and aggressiveness are different concepts.
Aggression is intentional destructive behavior aimed at causing harm or damage to another individual.
Psychologist Evgenia Zarubina told how to restrain a child’s aggression.
But it is a situational/one-time act. Aggressiveness is already a stable personality trait, a way of expressing oneself that has become habitual.
Aggression is not a natural character trait, we are not born with it. The child is initially positively disposed to the new world.
It is not for nothing that when a mother bends over the baby's cradle, he smiles at her. The first emotional manifestation is a smile.
The prerequisites for aggression and aggressive behavior are created by the environment in which the child grows and is brought up. From here we can identify the first rule. Start with yourself.
It is necessary to control your behavior and emotions in the presence of a small member of society. Children absorb everything like sponges.
Remember the movie Meet the Fockers, where the non-speaking Mini-Jack's first word was a bad remark that he repeated after the main character?
Come up with an adequate way for your child to express aggression. For example, a "Scream Bag". An effective way to suppress anger and aggression.
Sew or buy a bag where the child can scream out his negative emotions. After the baby feels relieved, shake the bag out the window.
Another good way is art therapy. Invite your child to express his feelings on paper.
At first, the child will choose dark colors and press very hard on the pencil, as the child relaxes, try to turn the drawing into something good (for example, make an origami stork, at the end release this stork out the window).
But don't forget to clean up after yourself, don't litter the environment. The literature offers a variety of games to react to negative emotions and relieve aggression, for example, "The Falling Tower" (N. Kryazheva), "Release of Anger" (K. Rudestam).
If the child is very angry and relaxation is impossible, you need to show how to properly release negativity.
For example, have a pillow fight, beat a pillow, or shadow box. It will also be useful to find an activity that your child enjoys or a sports section where he or she will spend his or her energy.
Thus, intra-family relationships and methods of upbringing significantly influence the formation of aggression in children.
Children are our reflection, like litmus paper, and it is only up to us what color it will be painted.
