When raising a child, every parent should strive to ensure that their son or daughter develops adequate self-esteem.
It’s bad if a child has a high opinion of himself, especially if he doesn’t have any particular reasons to be proud.
It is not better if the child has low self-esteem. In this case, the boy or girl will face serious difficulties in communicating with peers and adults.
Sometimes, without realizing it, moms and dads force their children to evaluate themselves incorrectly.
There are three popular phrases that provoke a decrease in self-esteem in a child. It is better not to use such words when communicating with a child.
"You're doing everything wrong."
There is no need to blame the child for something that he cannot do. Otherwise, it is very easy to demotivate the child.
On the contrary, a son or daughter should be morally supported, calmly pointing out the mistakes he or she has made.
Seeing support will make it easier for a child to acquire skills.
And if you constantly call a child a "clumsy person", then he may get the impression that he is not capable of anything at all. Such a person is unlikely to be able to realize himself in adult life.
"Don't act like a girl"
Did the boy cry once or complain about some difficulties? Perhaps there is a serious reason for this. Do not rush to scold him for "unmanly" behavior.
Such accusations lower the child's self-esteem and make him think that he is obliged to endure everything.
"You're a bad boy, but Nikita..."
There is no need to compare a child with other children. Did your son get a bad grade? Scold him for that, not for the fact that his classmate got an "A". Who knows, maybe it was an accident.
If you don’t follow this recommendation, your child will think that he is inferior to others in everything.
There is no point in setting "good" children as an example. It is unlikely to help a boy or a girl. On the contrary, the situation may worsen when it turns out that the "standard" is not ideal either. But for some reason "that boy" is praised.
