Sometimes, without knowing it, mom and dad can cause psychological trauma to their own child.
Moreover, this can happen even when parents only want the best for their baby.
Feelings of guilt, inferiority complex, fear of everything around... This is clearly not something that should appear in a boy or a girl.
If a mother and father want their child to be self-confident and not be too restless, they should avoid using the following phrases in their speech:
"Listen to me, otherwise that aunt over there will take you away."
A child should not be frightened by such terrible consequences. Any child is afraid of being abandoned by his own parents.
Even if such threats have nothing to do with reality, you can’t resort to them: the child will take everything seriously.
"You can't be trusted with anything"
A child should not consider himself/herself inept. You don't want your son or daughter to have low self-esteem, do you?
Don't scold your child for mistakes. It's better to calmly explain what he did wrong and teach him the right actions.
It's okay to make mistakes, especially when you're learning.
But if you only blame the child and call him incapable, then he will be afraid to act.
"You're a bad student, but Vasya..."
It might be worthwhile to scold a child for being lazy in his studies. But there is no need to compare him with others.
After all, the baby will think that everyone around him is better than him. The child will begin to consider himself “wrong.”
"You're just like your father."
A mother should never say this phrase to her son. Especially if the parents are divorced.
The child will constantly feel guilty. There is nothing good about this.
Serious psychological trauma can also be caused to a child in this situation if you tell him: “Daddy left us because of you.”
"So much money was spent on you..."
Don't blame your child for the money you're losing because of him. And don't say that you interrupted your career growth for him.
It is not the baby's fault. And there is no need to impose this feeling on a boy or a girl.
Becoming a mom and dad and then facing financial or parenting difficulties is always the parents' choice. And there is no need to be offended by the child for not understanding how serious your contribution is.
