When communicating with children, it is important for parents to be aware of the impact of simple words and phrases: sometimes negative comments can completely undermine self-confidence.
To prevent this from happening, some phrases are best never said at all.
What words should a child not hear from his parents?
"And who did you turn out to be?"
Many parents use this phrase to hint to their children that they are worse than their parents. In reality, this simply removes responsibility from adults, because children grow up exactly as they are raised.
Therefore, there is no need to instill complexes in a child with such a phrase.
Comments on excess weight
Negative words about one's figure are painfully perceived at any age. If adults try to offend each other less, because they can lose friends, then parents sometimes do not skimp on their children.
Instead of reproaching your child for being overweight, you need to understand the reasons for its appearance. Most children eat only at home, so analyze their diet. Limit the funds you allocate for pocket money if your child spends them on unhealthy and high-calorie food.
Children should feel cared for, not ridiculed.
"Everyone has good children, not like me"
Experts do not recommend using traumatic comparisons, because they will not be useful anyway. Instead of praising other people's children and offending your own, you need to help them become better.
You don't need to praise only other children, otherwise your child will stop believing in himself.
"And again you ruined everything!"
Even if the child has actually messed something up, it is not a reason to say this phrase. After such words, children will no longer want to even try to do something on their own, because they will not be confident in themselves.
You shouldn't use such an expression. Good parents can use constructive criticism, which should not hurt the child's self-esteem.
"You never understand anything!"
If a child cannot understand you, this does not mean that he has limited intellectual abilities: it is quite possible that he simply did not wait for a quality explanation.
So it's worth taking the time to explain the information in a way that's easy to understand.
