Parents sometimes do not pay attention to what phrases they use when communicating with their child.
This is quite a serious mistake, as ordinary words can harm the mental health of children.
What are the 4 most toxic phrases?
"When you start bringing money into the family, then you will decide"
Often adults do not give children the right to choose only because the child is financially dependent. However, this is not the children's fault: they simply cannot earn money due to their age.
If you constantly reproach them for the fact that parents spend money and therefore have the right to choose what clothes to wear, what clubs to attend and what entertainment to choose, then this will make the relationships in the family not the warmest and healthiest.
Don't blame your child for things they can't influence. If you don't, your children will feel dependent, vulnerable, and not valuable enough to have a voice.
"If you continue to behave like this, I will give you away."
Some parents use this phrase as a weighty argument in their favor. However, this is real blackmail - if the child does not behave the way mom and dad want, then they promise to give him away easily.
Adults understand that this is a joke. However, children can take such threats seriously.
Experts also note that not every child can be frightened by this phrase, so it should not be used.
"You have to eat everything"
Recently, many people have been experiencing various eating disorders, which are extremely dangerous.
This seemingly harmless phrase can provoke them. Therefore, allow your child to eat as much as he wants.
"Because we decided so!"
Not all parents have patience and the ability to clearly argue their decisions. Therefore, they simply hide behind their own authority.
However, such behavior leads to children growing up compliant, dependent and dependent on more powerful people. Therefore, exclude this expression from your vocabulary.
