Many parents try to mentally prepare for their children's puberty, as this is the most difficult time for all family members.
However, even being prepared for adolescence is not always a guarantee that your relationship with your children will not deteriorate.
For example, it is worth knowing what phrases can upset a teenager, throw him off track, or offend him.
Phrases No Teenager Wants to Hear
"You won't achieve anything"
Parents sometimes say something like this with good intentions: for example, mom and dad see that the child is not very good at the chosen sport, and are simply trying to protect him from disappointment and useless waste of time.
However, teenagers see the world in a very dramatic way. They will not be able to feel your care and best intentions. Teenagers will hear that they are worthless and have no talent.
As a result, self-doubt and depression may develop, experts believe.
"It's time for you to lose weight / you need to gain weight urgently"
Teenagers react extremely sharply to critical comments about their appearance and figure. If you think that your child is obese, you need to present this information gently. Just start introducing healthy food into the diet, buy a subscription to a swimming pool or a gym.
If the child is painfully thin (in your opinion), then you should seek help from doctors. After passing the tests, you can draw conclusions and develop a strategy to solve the problem.
But teenagers react too violently to the comments themselves.
"Your hobbies are stupid"
No one likes being treated with disdain for their favorite activities. Teenagers are especially likely to react violently.
Even if your child's hobby seems stupid and useless to you, you shouldn't humiliate him or her because of it. Try to do your teenager's favorite thing together. It's quite possible that after this you'll get to know your children much better.
It would also be a good idea to suggest your own options for spending leisure time. However, this method will only work if you have often spent time together as a family before.
