All mothers dream of a well-mannered, successful, healthy and happy child.
Irina Pronina, a coach for parents and teenagers, told how to raise a child.
And the question arises, how to raise such a child? What should a mother do to ensure that the child is well-behaved?
First of all, you need to understand that no matter what the mother does, the child will grow up very similar to the parents in behavior, habits, beliefs, and values.
Because in the period up to 7 years, a child, like a sponge, absorbs everything he observes in the family, in his environment. And by the age of 7, he has already formed patterns of behavior and reactions to surrounding stimuli.
The main thing to remember is that your child will follow your example in everything – both good and bad. And if you want to cultivate a quality in your child, then first of all you need to assess how developed this quality is in you.
To instill generosity in a child, a mother should be more generous. For example, bring a glass of water to the child when he is busy with something.
If the mother has little time for the family and is passionate about her favorite thing, this will benefit the child, because he will learn that striving for his dream is good. If the mother constantly sacrifices herself, then this is not a very good example to follow.
It is also important to understand that the parents' faith in the child plays a big role. If a mother or father considers their child ordinary, untalented, then the child will have no choice but to prove it. Because children cannot resist their parents' expectations.
If, on the contrary, the mother believes that the child will achieve a lot in life and treats him as capable, even if he does not always demonstrate any special qualities, then such a child is doomed to success.
The most important thing in the interaction between parents and a child is to create an atmosphere of love, care, affection, and understanding for the child. Only in this case do children develop a sense of complete security and create the most favorable environment for development.
Following this rule, parents should allow children to make mistakes, explore the world, and learn from mistakes. It is important to focus on the child's achievements, not on the mistakes. All comments should be made not with reproach, but in a general atmosphere of approval.
The general rule is this: after you correct your child once, you need to point out three times that he is doing something well. This will foster a sense of confidence and self-esteem in the child.
The researchers concluded that for a child's development, it is not so much the intellect and qualifications of adults that are important, but a warm, attentive, interested attitude - a close emotional connection. And there is no need to interrupt this connection with punishments and threats.
Of course, it happens that a mother gets tired, because children require constant attention. And then a mother may think that the child is mocking or that his behavior is intentional.
It is important to pay attention to the appearance of this feeling. This is a marker of the transition to an inadequate parental state - as soon as it seems to us that "he did it on purpose", this is a signal that we need a break. Parents need to rest and replenish their resources.
Communication with a child is an interaction in which both mother and child influence each other and, with the right understanding, develop each other. If something in the child’s behavior makes the mother nervous, this is a sign that she needs to work on herself in this direction.
Children always show us our deepest problems.
And if parents pay more attention to their children, noticing and correctly deciphering their messages, then it will become obvious that children have enormous power and are capable of making us better.
