It's terrible when a boy or girl hates their mom and dad.
And such a situation may arise due to the fault of the parents.
The reason for the emergence of children's hatred can be incorrect communication with the child.
Under no circumstances should you say anything that could make your son/daughter dislike you.
Perhaps the anger and contempt will be "quiet". But that will not make the situation any better.
Want to maintain a normal relationship with your own child? Then don't use the following lines:
"Actually, we wanted a girl, not a boy."
Don't tell your son that you wanted a daughter under any circumstances.
And vice versa: a girl should not know that her parents dreamed of having a boy.
If you do tell this to your child, he will be very offended and will feel “unnecessary”.
“Everyone has normal children, but mine…”
Try not to compare your child with other children.
And if you do this, then do not allow comparisons to be unfavorable to your son/daughter.
The baby will clearly perceive such parental statements as a manifestation of lack of love.
"Nobody cares about your opinion"
Never discount your child's opinions and feelings.
"Because of you we spent a lot of money"
Don't blame your baby for the fact that caring for him "requires a lot of money."
The child is not to blame for this.
"We will stop loving you if..."
The baby must be sure that his parents love him unconditionally.
Mom and Dad should not threaten their child with "ending love." Even as a joke.
This approach is fraught with a serious deterioration in relations. The child may seriously begin to believe that parents may stop showing love and care, or even "abandon" him.
