Is your son or daughter stubborn and ignoring most of your requests?
Try changing your communication style with your child!
It turns out that politeness on the part of parents and their use of simple psychological tricks can turn a naughty child into a good boy.
"Please speak more quietly."
“Shut up right now!”, “Don’t yell!”, “Don’t touch!”, “Stop right now”... Children get used to such parental remarks quite quickly, and then begin to ignore them.
Want your child to do what you ask? Then give up shouting, complaining and using a demanding tone.
"Turn on" politeness. Use those same "magic" words that you once told your son or daughter about.
You'd be surprised, but staying calm and using the word "please" will give good results.
"We need to hurry today"
Children don’t like phrases like: “Faster!”, “Why are you hesitating?”, “How long can you wait?!”
Is it the day of the trip? Calmly explain to your child that today they need to act a little faster than at other times.
The important thing is to tell your child that the rule applies to the whole family. Not "you need to hurry up," but "we need to hurry up." It will be much easier for your child to act if he or she feels like part of a "team."
"Where will you start doing your homework?"
There is an interesting psychological trick that allows you to make your child do something without shouting.
So, we need to give the child the right to choose.
You can't ask a question like, "Are you going to do your homework?"
It’s better to ask this way: “Where will you start doing your homework? With math or a foreign language?”
This approach is good because it deprives the child of the opportunity to refuse. He is faced with a fact: he must act. But he can choose where to start.
For reference
A child is, in its basic meaning, a person during childhood.
