Psychologist Adelina Borzova told how to become an ideal parent
If you came to read an article with this title, it already says that you are trying to become the best version of a parent.
Psychologist, lecturer at the Department of Psychology at Synergy University Adelina Borzova told how to become an ideal parent.
Scientists, for example, never rest on their laurels, opening up new horizons because they know that it is always necessary to move forward and develop. This is a great platform for growth.
If you don't want to read the whole article, the most important thing to understand is that you need to be close to your children, fuss over them, devote enough time to them and communicate. The recipe seems very simple, but at the same time complicated.
How to find time in a busy modern life schedule, especially when in the evening after work there is no energy left for anything?
This is where parenting comes in - finding time for your child every day, under any circumstances. It is important to correctly allocate the parent's resources, set your priorities, and also consider whether the parent wants to spend a lot of time with their child.
But that's a separate topic. So let's return to the question: "What is the ideal parent?"
An ideal parent is one who:
- understands the needs of his child;
- aware of his events (with whom he quarreled, with whom he is friends). If the child tells you this, know that he trusts you 100%. It is important not to lose this, but NOT with the aim of controlling his relationships, but with the aim of influencing the situation locally;
- knows which character the child likes and does not impose his authoritarian opinion regarding this character (even if the parent does not like this character);
- loves his child, even when scolding. It is necessary to scold a child sometimes, but at the same time not too authoritarianly (without despotism, sarcasm and without self-assertion). The child should understand that people are prone to emotions, learn to feel the parent's boundaries and understand where mom and dad will be upset and where they will be happy about his actions;
- together with the child, he/she does not only important things, but also things for the soul. For example, "baking" sand cakes or looking at the evening sun through a glass together, etc.;
- does his/her favorite things together with the child, thereby involving him/her in the world of his/her hobbies. For example, a parent likes to sort garbage or collect stamps, read books, watch videos on the Internet on various topics (about economics, carburetor repair, etc.);
- does not forget to adequately load the child with useful information in a playful form, depending on age.
For example, discussing fairy tales after reading. It is necessary to ask the child questions to understand how much he has learned the essence of the text, but in such a way that it does not remind him of studying; - spends time cultivating empathy in the child towards living and non-living objects. It is important that the child knows how to sympathize.
For example, teach to show empathy to a doll. Up to 5 years old, a child tends to fantasize that dolls are alive and can talk, or that a pebble can be upset that it was moved to another place without being asked about it. This is development within the norm.
Actually, these points are quite enough to be an ideal parent.
