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4 Mistakes Parents Make When Raising "Beggars" in Their Children
17.02.2024 17:05
Of course, all parents want their child to be happy. But here's the problem: their good intentions often lead their grown-up children to a life of poverty. Stubborn moms and dads foolishly create such a future for their offspring.
Let's look at 4 parental mistakes that lead children to a life of poverty.
Parents limit their child's independence
We are talking about those cases in which the mother or father prevents the child from acting and thinking independently.
The elders simply offer the little person a ready-made solution or answer instead of giving him freedom of action. But the child must learn to think and act. This is how he learns about the world, develops and gets his first experience.
If you teach a child to think in a standard way, his imagination will be nipped in the bud. Example: a boy started drawing, but his mother quickly intervened in the process. She told her son: "The sky should be blue, and the grass should be green. Be careful not to mix them up!" But this is not one of the self-evident truths!
In the life of an adult, there are no ready-made instructions; he thinks for himself, searches for answers, acts. Some people think outside the box, but at the same time win victory after victory. That is why you should not restrain your child’s imagination and forbid him to think.
Parents "cut off the wings" of their child
This is the very situation in which parents tell their child: "Your dream is absurd! You will never become a scientist (artist, inventor, chef, famous artist). And you will not be able to earn a million, and you will not build a two-story house, and you will not buy yourself a yacht! Stop dreaming about the impossible, appreciate reality!"
In reality, the successes of outstanding personalities are dreams that one day came true. When a person confidently goes towards his goal, he achieves a lot. Perhaps now your baby needs your approval and support. Tell your offspring: "I believe that you will succeed!" Perhaps these warm words will later make their contribution to the fate of your child.
Parents develop a negative attitude towards wealthy people in their offspring
Unfortunately, this phenomenon happens in many families. Often successful people are condemned, accused of stealing, dishonesty, and indecency. Parents have the right to criticize and scold the rich. But not in the presence of the child!
Don't you want your child to have a false impression of all people living in luxury? Or for the little person to decide that only lying, mean and evil people who commit crimes and terrible deeds become rich? Please don't impose hackneyed stereotypes on your child if you don't want to confuse him. Instead, tell him about the hundreds of good deeds that wealthy people have done for the world.
Parents teach their children to live a poor life in advance
Of course, it is necessary to restrain the growing needs of naughty children from time to time. However, parents have no right to tell their offspring the following: "You have too many demands!", "Moderate your needs", "You live in a poor family, behave modestly!"
Don't convince your child that being poor is perfectly acceptable, that many people remain poor until old age. Do you really want to prepare your child for a bleak future in this way?
There are many families in the world living comfortably and happily. So why did you decide that your child will join the ranks of the poor and will count pennies until payday? This little person has many successes and failures, new discoveries and achievements ahead. Perhaps he will find his place in the sun, and you will be proud of him.
Don't put obstacles in the way of your closest person, and then he will find happiness!
Earlier we wrote about why you can’t punish children with silence .
