How Not to Raise a Child: 3 Popular Techniques You Should Avoid

06.02.2024 00:30
Updated: 28.03.2024 08:54

Not all popular child-rearing techniques are effective.

Some educational “tricks” can even be called dangerous for a child.

So, what exactly should parents not do if they do not want to harm their son or daughter?

Threats

"If you don't finish your dinner, we'll forbid you to turn on the computer", "If you bring home another bad grade from school, you won't get a present"...

Sound familiar? If you often say something like this when talking to your child, you are making a serious mistake.

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Yes, such threats help to achieve success. But only temporarily. In the long term, the language of blackmail worsens the relationship between parents and children.

"Promise me..."

From an educational point of view, “extorted” promises are not only ineffective, but also dangerous.

A child who is required to promise something will say what they want to hear from him: “If only they would leave me alone…” But the baby will quickly forget about this word.

And when the promise is broken, everyone will be upset: both the child and his parents.

"A Lie for the Good"

There can be no “white lies” in communication with a child.

You can’t hide your parents’ divorce, family tragedies, or other important events from your child.

It is quite possible that a boy or girl will believe that "daddy left". But when the baby finds out the truth, he or she will be disappointed with the mother's behavior.

Don't lie to your child if you don't want to lose his trust and respect.

Earlier, experts explained why you shouldn’t constantly praise your child.

Author: Kurchev Anton Deputy Editor-in-Chief

Content
  1. Threats
  2. "Promise me..."
  3. "A Lie for the Good"