Psychologist Elena Shmatova told how children help us become more mature
Having children not only changes our lifestyle, but also brings new abilities. We become more mature and more sensitive to the needs of others.
Psychologist Elena Shmatova told how children help us become more mature.
In the first months, it is difficult to determine why the child is crying, wants to sleep, eat, or has a tummy ache. Over time, the parent learns to determine by the child’s posture and crying what exactly the child needs. This skill is transferred to other areas of life, developing observation.
A person learns to withstand strong emotions, screaming, crying. Loud sounds that can last from several minutes to several hours, thus develop endurance.
The parent needs to take actions that will help satisfy the child's need so that he stops crying.
Lack of sleep and rest forces us to look for solutions on how to manage to do the necessary procedures with the child and find an opportunity to rest.
Combining work with childcare, you can train the skill of multitasking, if it was previously insufficiently developed or it seemed that it was impossible, there comes a time when it becomes a necessity.
You can grow up by rethinking your experience of communicating with your parents: some become more grateful and gentle towards their parents, realizing how much work it took to raise them.
Others, on the contrary, are afraid of making mistakes in upbringing or causing pain and harm to their own child. For some, having children helps them to live through childhood, which may have ended early or was deprived of bright moments.
With the appearance of children, the need to earn more and come up with new ways to earn money increases. Which, undoubtedly, develops and stimulates in work.
Visiting educational and medical institutions hones skills in how to communicate with other people, negotiate, and defend the interests of your child.
The ability to say no to a child also becomes a necessity.
By prohibiting something, keeping it safe, there is no way to please, to be good, a person learns to be “bad” for a child in the moment, understanding the benefits of his prohibitions in the future.
This can also be transferred to other areas; it’s not so scary to refuse.
Adulthood can manifest itself in time limitations; with the presence of a child, there is no longer the opportunity to help people who have used the kindness of others.
New shades of love and emotions appear, joy takes on new colors from involvement and inspiration from a smile, the first step. The pleasure of simple things becomes brighter.
A person begins to value minutes of silence more, to be alone with his thoughts and track changes.
New knowledge about child development and the experience of growing up cannot but affect a person, as according to the law of dialectics, quantitative changes turn into qualitative ones, the personality becomes more mature, consistent, deep, more global and long-term goals in life appear.
