5 Parental Phrases That Can Cause a Child to Grow Up a Loser

13.07.2023 02:30

Proper upbringing of a child is one of the keys to his happiness in the future.

If parents love their child and support him in everything, then the chances of raising a successful person are high.

However, there are dangerous phrases that can make a child feel insecure and unmotivated.

And this hardly contributes to the full development of the personality.

So, what phrases said by parents can turn a child into a loser?

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"You won't succeed"

Even if it is obvious to parents that the child will not achieve good results in something, they should not tell him about it.

The phrase "You can't do it" demotivates children.

Let the child understand for himself that he has no inclination to this or that business. In such conditions, the child will not stop looking for new hobbies.

Moreover, it may happen that a boy or girl will nevertheless show themselves in music/fine arts/sports, although it would seem that there was no reason for this.

"Don't act like a girl"

Such a phrase can have a negative impact on the boy.

Let the child express his emotions, otherwise he may grow up to be a withdrawn and insecure person.

"And here is your classmate..."

You shouldn't compare your child with those children who have achieved great success in one direction or another.

Yes, today your son or daughter's classmate received the highest grade or won a competition.

But tomorrow your child may be the winner. But no one will praise him for it. And then the motivation will disappear. But complexes will appear.

"Don't even dream about it"

You shouldn’t deprive a child of a dream, even if it concerns those desires that, at first glance, are impossible to realize.

Let the baby have a goal. Then he will strive to move forward. Who knows, maybe he will still succeed...

"Nothing terrible happened"

Don't "devalue" the situation that the upset child finds himself in.

What happened may seem insignificant to you, but your baby may be seriously worried.

If you often tell a boy or girl the phrase “Stop crying, nothing terrible happened,” then it will be more difficult for the child to cope with emotions and problems.

Author: Kurchev Anton Deputy Editor-in-Chief

Content
  1. "You won't succeed"
  2. "Don't act like a girl"
  3. "And here is your classmate..."
  4. "Don't even dream about it"
  5. "Nothing terrible happened"