During a quarrel, a person experiences serious emotional stress.
In such a state it is very difficult to control yourself. It is easy to start screaming.
It is therefore not surprising that people who quarrel usually raise their voices at each other.
However, sometimes it happens that in a conflict situation one interlocutor shouts, while the other remains calm.
The second, of course, wants to “extinguish” the conflict.
It would seem that the word "calm down" should prove to be a saving word. But this is a false impression.
Why you can't say "calm down" during an argument
If you think that a person who is swearing and screaming will immediately “obey” you, then you are deeply mistaken.
Most likely, the opposite result will be achieved: your interlocutor will become even more angry and irritable.
The thing is that the word “calm down” is usually perceived incorrectly: a person begins to think that he is not being heard and that he is being made fun of.
How to calm down your interlocutor during an argument
You can't shout back. You shouldn't judge a person's emotional state out loud either.
It's better to try to take a break: "Let's talk later." Or ask the following: "How can I help you?"
These phrases are much more effective and efficient than asking someone to calm down.
