Politeness is taught to people from a young age. But, frankly speaking, this quality does not always make a person successful or even turn him into a loser.
It is enough to recall the image of a shy intellectual, a rather polite person, who is ignored by janitors, disliked by his colleagues and even teased by his relatives.
We'll tell you which 5 phrases you need to delete from your vocabulary if you want to maintain the respect of others.
"If it's not too much trouble"
The phrase says that the person agrees to make concessions in advance in his request and is even ready to hear a refusal. And he himself already believes that his question is not so important.
"Thanks in advance"
This is not even about politeness, but a manifestation of manipulation. That is, the person you are addressing has no options left but to agree with the one asking.
"Sorry, but my intuition tells me that..."
Sounds beautiful, doesn't it! But with all the qualities of the person who said this phrase, it hits the authority. People around you don't care about your intuition, because people only listen to facts.
"I don't want to offend anyone, but..."
Again, there is simply a sense of insecurity against the background of a negative attitude towards others, and also a complete lack of respect.
"Allow me to address you"
This phrase is only appropriate in the army. In a civilian business environment, such a person appears as a slave. It begins to seem that the request is not very important, and the person making the request does not deserve attention.
Earlier we talked about what you can learn about a person by his gait .
